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ตอนแรกว่าจะไม่ตอบ แต่ก็ออกจะห่วงๆอยู่เหมือนกัน ขออนุญาติตอบเป็นภาษาอังกฤษนะคะเร็วดี (กลัวว่าพืมพ์ช้าเดี๊ยวจะส่งไม่ได้อีก เป็นหลายครั่้งแล้วค่ะ) หากจะไปอยู่อเมริกาคุณจะต้องใช้ภาษาอยู่แล้ว
If you want to live and work in L.A., you need to have a visa; and a work permit to be able to work legally.
Let's say if your wife lives and works there legally meaning she has a LPR (Legal permanent residency) ใบเขียว. She might be able to petition for you and your child to reunion with her. There are lots of requirements (financial affidavit and tons of paper work each from you and your child). You can wait in Thailand and the consular in Thailand will call you for an interview, if approved; then your family can come over. This process takes time, effort, and also financial proof & support. The best is ask your wife to get help from a non-profit legal organization in LA. I don't live in LA but there is a big Thai community there. Thai Inc. might be able to help refer her to a right one.
But if she is there on a tourist visa. She cannot sponsor you. And she cannot work legally in the US. But people do it all the time. Just be careful. Life in the U.S. if you have no paper work (illegal), you will have a harder time. The life quality is not better than living in Thailand if you worked as a dishwasher earning only $ 4/hr. with absolutely no benefit and being scared all the time for being there. And unfortunately many employers (who are also Thais) do take advantages from those who are undocumented (illegal)
The cost of living is so high: rent, education , health care...etc. Living in the U.S. is not a heaven when you are at the bottom of the society and barely make it.
Recently I read an article about a former Thai military man quitted his work and had a dream to come to the U.S. He had a high rank in Thailand (นายทหารชั้นสัญญาบัตร), he had a soldier to wait for him (serve him), owned a home, was well respected in Thai society. But when he came here, everything he had taken years to build was gone. He worked as a car washer at a car dealership in LA. And he was so miserable missing his home and his elder mother in Thailand. When he was sick, he couldn't even afford to go to the hospital.
You might hear many happy & successful stories. But there are many many untold stories about suffering, injustice, miserability...etc. I have come across with folks who were in difficult situations before so that's why I am concerned for you.
Sorry if this doesn't sound delightful but I just want to give you an honest thought so that you can take this into your consideration and calculate to weigh the risk. Good Luck.